"Relax. Breathe. It’s okay, you have time. Take it day by day and allow things to unfold as they’re meant to. Your life will happen according to its own timing, and you will become the person you’re meant to be."
You are planning a trip, 7 months away, with your sister to the
Cayman Islands. The two of you talk on the phone at least once a week,
discuss the snorkeling you plan to do, and talk about the restaurants
that are close to the place you are staying. You look forward to the
trip for a long time.
Anticipation vs. reality — Contrast that with the
actual experience of the trip and you may find that the anticipation was
better than the trip. In fact, Terence Mitchell (1997) conducted
research on just this situation. He studied people who were taking
either a trip to Europe, a short trip over the USA Thanksgiving holiday
weekend, or a 3-week bicycle tour of California.
“You don’t get good karma by making yourself into a martyr. Learn how to stand up for yourself and your good karma will be delivered in that instant.” — Bryant McGill
Just as you have grown out of those A&F skinny jeans you wore in high school, it is also time to outgrow your immature relationship habits. The point is, if you are not a teenager, you should not treat your significant other like you were one.
Here are 5 relationship habits that should stay locked away in the drama-filled high school hallways:
1. Trying to Make Them Jealous:
Flirting with another person in front of your partner or crush in an attempt to make them jealous is a classic middle-school-kid move. Intentionally making someone whom you love jealous in hopes that they will appreciate you more is an immature way of dealing with the issues at hand. If you are upset with your partner, talk to them about your feelings, instead of hurting them by flirting with the bartender. If you have feelings for someone, do not play games. Be upfront, honest, and sincere about your intentions with them.
